tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3791264579587890333.post3056417249994853441..comments2023-06-23T07:27:19.548-07:00Comments on They Are So Cute When They Are Sleeping...: And Then I CriedKate, aka Guavalicioushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03262691817279213060noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3791264579587890333.post-44806842633679824502011-05-03T08:29:49.531-07:002011-05-03T08:29:49.531-07:00You know what one of my mom's favorite sayings...You know what one of my mom's favorite sayings was when I was a kid (which explains a lot about who I am now, lol)? "Eh, fuck 'em if they can't take a joke"<br />People need to lighten up. I'm pretty sure that if a mother out there says that her kids have never, not once, ever annoyed her- she's a liar. So if someone was bothered by that tweet- which made me laugh and think about how I drove my parents insane and now my kids are doing the same to me- they have issues. Bigger issues than you venting in a perfectly healthy way about a tough time.Clairehttp://halfheartedhousewife.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3791264579587890333.post-41465328718923865822011-05-01T10:56:44.819-07:002011-05-01T10:56:44.819-07:00I've had this post in my reader for two weeks ...I've had this post in my reader for two weeks now, waiting t be near a computer to respond. I just wanted to say that I'm sorry someone responded like that. Honestly, I think it's important to vent. and not judge those who do! So no judgment, just LOVE from me!Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15881590483174001768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3791264579587890333.post-33620134111310918562011-04-21T14:38:04.283-07:002011-04-21T14:38:04.283-07:00Hey Kate - I am sorry this is so terribly late but...Hey Kate - I am sorry this is so terribly late but I wanted to let you know that I've had someone say similiar things about my tweets before and it really made me paranoid. I may not know how you feel in regards to your kids because mine are still so much younger, but I do know how you feel when someone squashes your only outlet to vent. It totally sucks. And I hate that it happens. That is all.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11551272984388114722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3791264579587890333.post-47350834988606303922011-04-20T08:11:07.727-07:002011-04-20T08:11:07.727-07:00I hope you realize that reading posts like this ma...I hope you realize that reading posts like this makes me come thisclose to crying *for* you. And then of course I read down more of your posts - because yeah I've met you but I still don't know that much ABOUT you - and they made me want to cry, too, because I have SO been there. And in 1st grade there are almost 20 kids in Mister Man's class and he's been invited to 2 birthday parties so far this year. Really, only 2 kids have had a birthday and a party so far? Heartbreaking, but I do all I can for him then I get frustrated and say something to him that I know cuts him deeply (that Asperger's thing is a great companion for shame because, you know, he's got the perfectionist tendencies) and I feel like crap but OH were they driving me nuts and I *just* need a break and seriously how hard is it to do something the first or second time I ask and not the sixth and then when you do it, you know how to do it, so why are your dirty socks now sitting on the floor of your room instead of the dirty clothes hamper like I asked.<br /><br />And oops I just undid all the good my chai latte did for me - after I had to scramble to get everyone to school on time today because my husband forgot to wash their lunchboxes and containers last night. Deep breaths...<br /><br />That said, how ARE things going in Columbia? Are you finding good people there? I didn't realize you were there for some reason, but we have some good friends there with a slightly older daughter who are Chicago transplants I'd be happy to introduce you to!<br /><br />Chin up. I'm just waiting for Autism One next month so I can feel like a "good" mom again. I need it!Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07803503583347758969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3791264579587890333.post-9079422202156509372011-04-18T21:19:21.675-07:002011-04-18T21:19:21.675-07:00I saw that tweet and was actually trying to think ...I saw that tweet and was actually trying to think of something witty but had nothing so I didn't respond at all- I totally get it though. Kids are tough. Being a Mom is hard. You are doing a great job. I don't know the specifics of your situation but you give me the courage to go out and figure out what I need for the boys even when it feels like I'm using a map written in Chinese.Erinhttp://www.theslackermom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3791264579587890333.post-15264986821676806352011-04-18T18:27:41.014-07:002011-04-18T18:27:41.014-07:00{{{Hugs}}} Mean people suck. You are a fantastic m...{{{Hugs}}} Mean people suck. You are a fantastic mother. That is worth repeating (and shouting): YOU ARE A FANTASTIC MOM! Thank you for always keepin' it real and sharing your story.<br /><br />{{{Hugs}}} again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3791264579587890333.post-47093757511273799812011-04-18T18:09:47.073-07:002011-04-18T18:09:47.073-07:00I'm so sorry that you are going through a roug...I'm so sorry that you are going through a rough period. We all have times when we don't think that we can do it. There has been many a time that I have locked myself in a bathroom stall at work and had a good cry. Other times, I'll just lock myself away, close my eyes and just breathe....in....out....in....out. Do what you need to Kate; whatever it takes to give yourself relief at the darkest times and don't forget that there are people who love you.Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02202212892774623935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3791264579587890333.post-42128859971707857132011-04-18T15:07:02.080-07:002011-04-18T15:07:02.080-07:00@jen: as always, you keep me sane and mindful that...@jen: as always, you keep me sane and mindful that I am not the worst mother in the world. Lucky to have you!Kate, aka Guavalicioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03262691817279213060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3791264579587890333.post-76873599462759725352011-04-18T15:06:06.864-07:002011-04-18T15:06:06.864-07:00Amy: I probably would have laughed at a nurture vs...Amy: I probably would have laughed at a nurture vs nature response, and agreed a bit. I am out of my depth here. I don't think I was prepared for the fours to be hard. And what we used in the past (time outs, mediation, hugging) is not working. I think we're in for a rough ride until next year when they are apart most of the day. They need a break from each other. <br /><br />Man that tweet hit me like a ton of bricks; it seemed unnecessarily hurtful. But then I know it isn't always personal. I don't know what is behind it; I don't know what shapes the way other people think, where their feelings come from.<br /><br />I know that before I had the girls, especially after dealing with infertility, I was really bothered by the way people talked about their kids. Now I know it's possible to not always like them even when you love them like crazy.<br /><br />My kids are young, there's two of them, and we're dealing with issues most people don't have to handle. I use humor to deal with that. And I try to be honest because I want other parents to feel okay about themselves when they feel overwhelmed. That's not always going to be understood.<br /><br />And as the girls' therapist said after seeing my swollen eyes: "it's better to tweet it than yell it at them".Kate, aka Guavalicioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03262691817279213060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3791264579587890333.post-56999906596797646732011-04-18T10:28:10.682-07:002011-04-18T10:28:10.682-07:00I love you. I love your kids. I know this is hard ...I love you. I love your kids. I know this is hard and I honor you for being able to write how you feel.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com